i can tell when other adults are wearing diapers. but most people don’t notice as its not their issue. wear plastic pants, compression pants and a support garment and a onesie or singlet. Wear loose pants and a shirt untucked.

Your stress is completely understandable. Please know that you're not alone. For daytime and a more discreet fit under your clothes with strong absorbency we recommend our Carewell Daily & Active. They are thinner than most products so they're less noticeable.

If you want a product that gives more coverage while at home or overnight, we also have an overnight version. Here's the link: Carewell Incontinence Underwear Overnight & Heavy Full Coverage Fit

You might find this blog post helpful for preventing leaks. A key tip we often share is to ensure you're using the correct product size, as this can significantly reduce the likelihood of leaks. https://www.carewell.com/resources/blog/tips-for-preventing-incontinence-leaks/